Alzheimer's disease · Behavior · Burnout · Caregiver · Family · Memories

Heart and/or mind / December 10, 2006

Two days ago my cousin telephoned, and my mother answered. I listened to her side of their conversation and thought, “Have I been dreaming? Is she really sick?” She handed the phone to me at one point. “She sounds great,” my cousin said to me. Is this the woman I visited in the nursing home… Continue reading Heart and/or mind / December 10, 2006

Alzheimer's disease · Behavior · Caregiver · Caregiving · Family

Going home / August 29, 2006

I didn’t make a conscious decision to take a hiatus from posting, and really didn’t notice that I’d withdrawn until Gail mentioned it to me in an email. But it’s true–I’ve felt so weighed down by everything that I haven’t had the spirit to write. Today was an awful day. It didn’t start out that way–I left… Continue reading Going home / August 29, 2006

Caregiver · Caregiving · Disappointment · Family

Caregiver’s Nirvana? / July 15, 2006

As I was piling the laundry into the basket this afternoon my mother, who was lying on the bed, said to me: “Oh–Happy Birthday.” Today is my birthday, actually, and I think she first remembered it at that moment, but the setting was comic. It’s silly of me to expect the day to be a little different,… Continue reading Caregiver’s Nirvana? / July 15, 2006

Alzheimer's disease · Caregiving · Family · Role reversal

My mother, myself / July 12, 2006

I’ve been reading My Mother’s Journey and having a conversation with Bailey, its author, about the gradual reversal in roles between our mothers and ourselves. We have both discovered that our own illnesses can bring out the maternal impulse that our Moms still possess–in my case, I’ve actually found myself “milking” the illness (which is usually a… Continue reading My mother, myself / July 12, 2006

Alzheimer's disease · Caregiving · Death · Family · Grief · Memories

Dia de los Muertos / June 17, 2006

This is a story of how dementia and family dynamics can be kneaded together to create something that will rise on its own. It’s an example of how one situation and its ripple effect stoke the stress that often underlies the mindset and the judgment of the caregiver, and which then reaches the Alzheimer sufferer… Continue reading Dia de los Muertos / June 17, 2006